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Correct thinking about singleness – SermonAudio.com

February 26, 2015 | Author:

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In this message, Scott Brown reveals some important matters that single Christians need to consider as they navigate the sometimes difficult waters of singleness. First, he begins by speaking of the times we live and the questions and problems that modern single living presents. Second, he identifies important matters of the culture you build in your church that are either a blessing or harmful to singles. Third, he speaks of the kind of preparations that singles need to make to get themselves ready for marriage. Fourth, he explains some of the critical things that Jesus spoke on singleness. Finally, he reveals the most important matter for understanding the single years – the sovereignty of God.

via Correct thinking about singleness – SermonAudio.com.

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An Old Problem, a New Enemy: Why We Don’t Love Home

February 24, 2015 | Author:

I think often about that woman in the Bible, the woman hanging out in Proverbs 31, the model for a godly woman. She does many things, wears many hats.

But one thing she does well, one thing is her priority: her home, husband and children. Her other pursuits fall around that.

“She looks well to the ways of her home, she is not idle…” Prov. 31:27

Somewhere along the way, a few generations back, the priority of homes, children and husbands took a backseat to promised fulfillment. Women became lured by the sirens of career, accolades and accomplishment, and the daily, hard, sleeve-rolling work became more mundane and distasteful in light of the exciting, interesting activity available. Women became distracted from their families because, quite frankly, family work is lackluster.

That was disconcerting enough.

But something looms dangerously familiar, now, even in homes where for a time, women had returned as stout, home-builders.

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A Vision For Homeschooling

February 24, 2015 | Author:

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I remember the day we decided pull our daughter out of school. The day we “made it public”—this decision to homeschool.

I.Was.Terrified. Really. My knees were knocking as I walk[ed] into our oldest daughter’s grade school. I liked her teacher. I had no complaints, really, except that we knew in our hearts there was something missing.

We longed for more. More shared experiences. More tailored education. A greater focus on the Creator of the beauty that surrounded us. A desire to dig deeper into family life. More story time. More field trips. Less rushing to go our separate ways every morning. More LIFE.

That was fifteen years ago. Our beautiful second grader is now a beautiful wife and is expecting her own child this year. Time goes by fast.

In the past fifteen years, we’ve seen a lot of changes in the homeschool community. There is much more pressure being put on homeschoolers to excel academically. We’ve gone from a few brave moms who, without access to mainstream “curriculum”, managed to give their children an excellent education—but we’ve forgotten what made it excellent.

It was excellent because these moms had a vision for homeschooling—they weren’t trying to re-create school at home. They were simply being obedient to the One who had called them to be different. They knew that if He had called them, He would equip them. And they were right.

Read the rest here

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Curriculum Advice, Vol. 1
Curriculum Advice Vol. 2
Chucking College: Achieving Success Without Corruption
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Sociologist Becomes Stay-At-Home Mom

February 23, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: Grateful for this article. If we prepare ourselves for being keepers of our homes and families we’ll have the opportunity to disciple and educate our children as well. Much of what we regularly outsource can be done by us. Outsourcing our labors can also be turned into home businesses and family economies where children will learn a business and work ethic along side you and surprisingly, they’ll love it in place of hours, days, and weeks on end of being entertained and engaging in fruitless activities.]

Firstly, we need for mothers to recognize the value that the work of the home has and its impact. We need to value the little things that we do each day in the home, and do them out of love, with a spirit of service, thinking of others, of our loved ones and our society. Too often we attribute more value to formal, well-paid work as recognized by society, and we forget the true worth of the little acts that we carry out in the comfort of our homes.

Secondly, we need to recognize the value of our role as parents. We need to dedicate time everyday to doing things better. It is worth it to invest in our family.

The home is where the child learns to be a person, to socialize with those around them and with society. It is in the home where values are learned, where children learn to be independent and responsible, and where their basic needs are met. Our children are the adults of the society of the future.

This is where we can start building a better society. It is the cradle of society, where people learn, internalize values and acquire customs and habits.

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Deep Wounds That Need Healing

February 23, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: Censoring the books is appropriate and should be suggested. Take the time to read the articles linked to this post.]

The film’s opening exposed a deep wound. It needs healing.

Whatever happens to the book and film franchise, the real life toll of human torture it exposes has to stay prominent in public debate and social action. It’s been in the shadows for far too long, and done incalculable damage.

Dr. Peter Kleponis told me on radio that after spending nearly two decades in marriage counseling, something changed, and the reality of the scourge of pornography addiction started becoming more apparent and more urgent in the crises he found himself dealing with, though nobody would talk openly about it.

“They’re making out as if this caught on all by itself, but it wasn’t organic growth. There’s been a juggernaut of media behind this, and it’s selling to women an image that somehow if you love a sadist out of his (abuse) you’ll have a great life,” (Dr. Gail Dines) said.

“When in reality, how ’50 Shades’ would end is that she’s running for her life to a battered women’s shelter, with children in tow, she’s got her front teeth knocked out, she’s got cigarette burns up and down her arm…she’s living off the grid without a bank account or a cell phone, cause these sadists never let go.”

Read the rest here

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Letting Go of Anger
Raising Maidens of Virtue: A Study of Feminine Loveliness for Mothers and Daughters
Passionate Housewives Desperate for God

Consent is Not Enough

February 23, 2015 | Author:

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Consent is not enough. It is not enough to justify BDSM or any other exploitative sexual practice. Consent is too flimsy a foundation for Ana Steele to justify the destructive things that are done to her by Christian Grey in “Fifty Shades of Grey.” For this reason I consider “Fifty Shades” to be grossly sexually destructive – especially of women – and I am boycotting the film.

“As long as he or she is consenting, it’s OK.” No it’s not, because people consent all the time to practices that they know are destructive and this doesn’t make such practices right. First, people can be pressured by their culture or their peers into things that they know are harmful to them.

Maybe the cultural or social pressure is not overt…But humans have a powerful desire to be accepted. Countless times when we think that our peers or our cultural surroundings are not accepting us, we voluntarily change our behaviors in order to fit in. We are very good at voluntarily doing what’s popular even when no one else is explicitly pushing us to do it. The need for acceptance is enough to compel us, on our own, to do things that we know will harm our souls or bodies in the long run.

Read the rest here

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Doctrine of Repentance (Puritan Paperbacks)
Letting Go of Anger
Raising Maidens of Virtue: A Study of Feminine Loveliness for Mothers and Daughters
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“Get Married” – Candice Watters’s Bold Apologetic (Book Review)

February 23, 2015 | Author:

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By Mrs. Chancey

I was sitting in class learning about all the ways our country was slipping from its constitutional foundations. And in a moment of exasperation, I raised my hand and called out, “So what’s the solution?” … I knew how hard it was to change the culture and was losing my will to believe there really was a solution. But I was hoping that maybe this passionate, articulate, creative professor had some new ideas to teach us…. Dr. Hubert Morken didn’t disappoint. He looked at me with a twinkle in his eye and let his grenade fly: “Get married, make babies, and do government. That’s how we win.” His response was so different from what I was expecting that it nearly knocked the wind out of me…. Even though I grew up in a Christian home, with parents who were committed to staying married…I had picked up the idea from the Christian culture around me that celibate service was superior to marriage and that to be truly spiritual, you had to at least be open to the possibility. Now this was professor was telling me that God’s plan for believers, most of them anyway, and for the future good of society, was marriage and babies. Family. It was a shock to my system. ~ from the introduction to Get Married by Candice Watters

Candice Watters is bold, and she’s on a mission to challenge the “being single is holier” myth that has pervaded Christendom in recent years. Her unabashed endorsement of Christian marriage is a breath of fresh air and offers hope to unmarried women who desire godly spouses and families.

I first came across Mrs. Watters’s writings on Boundless.org, the webzine she started in 1998. Boundless overflows with thought-provoking articles for Christians who want to live by God’s Word in a world that is often hostile to its precepts and principles. I’ve been most encouraged to see a number of Boundless writers stand firmly for Christian marriage, encouraging men to grow up and pursue it and women to prepare and pray for it.

Let’s face it; there are thousands of unmarried Christian women out there who wonder where all the “Mr. Rights” have gone. Where are the men who desire a godly wife and have a vision to bring up the next generation of Christians? In our culture of “hooking up” (yes, sadly, even in Christian circles) and extended adolescence, a mature, respectable man is regarded like a UFO sighting: rare, unbelievable, and unlikely to pass by again.

So when Candice Watters boldly declares that women need to get serious about marriage and pray for it to happen, it might seem a bit pie-in-the-sky to jaded women who’ve nearly given up. But Mrs. Watters doesn’t just cast the vision; she provides practical, biblical steps that single ladies can take in their quest to become a “Mrs.” (more…)

Contraception and Cancer

February 23, 2015 | Author:

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The News Story – Why you’re still paying for birth control even though it’s “free” now

Susie Poppick writes for TIME this week about her near-miss at having to fork over a $50 copay for her birth control.

“Strange,” she thought, since she was sure that “preventative” health services like contraception were supposed to be free under the Affordable Care Act. She promptly went home, got on the phone with her insurance provider, and was told that only generic medications were free. The problem is, her particular brand didn’t have a generic yet. She dug a little deeper, and she was quickly told that all she had to do was to tell her physician to call her pharmacy and assure them that she needed this brand.

Poppick cautions women against being taken in, and writes that “Many women—and their insurance representatives, doctors, and pharmacists—aren’t on the same page about whether their particular contraception should have a copay or not.” The best thing for women to do is to educate themselves, and soon, such obstacles will be taken care of.

But recent research suggests that journalists like Ms. Poppick should spend less time on getting free birth control, and more time on educating themselves and others on the deadly risks posed by hormonal contraception.

Read the rest here

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What lifetime romance is made of

February 20, 2015 | Author:

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Until 1993, for 16 years I taught international relations at Georgetown University. In the concluding lecture of the year I used to share with my students some personal reflections to help them as they embarked upon their careers. Many were especially grateful for my advice about how to have a successful marriage. In this regard, I have always advised people to heed only marriage advice from those who are happily married. I consider myself especially well qualified as I have been exceedingly happy with my wife Joan for over 30 years. Here is what I told my students.

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Lullaby for a Nameless Child by Andy Kenway

February 18, 2015 | Author:

Lullaby for a Nameless Child

If I could sing for you my song
Some angel’s tongue to borrow,
I’d sing for you the whole night long,
Sweet baby of my sorrow

For you were just a mother’s child,
As fair as any other;
A friend to me you might have been,
If only to your mother

But he who tore the threads of life
That God’s own hand was weaving,
He took his pay and washed his knife,
Nor for his crime was grieving

Oh, life is sweet when love is kind,
But they did not revere it;
The ground in grief and anger cried,
But heav’n alone would hear it

Too small to run, too weak to fight,
Too young to know a warning,
Like thieves they caught you in the night,
And stole away the morning

Who could conceive this dark design?
My heart, it fails within me;
I wish to God you had been mine,
If one among so many

Then sleep in silence, little one,
The morn was nearly breaking;
But cruel hands put out the sun,
And never you’ll be waking

Super Women vs Superwoman

February 17, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s note: There will always be women who strive to succeed at the highest level. That is why it is important that we understand the jurisdiction God gave women and all the things within that jurisdiction that she can put her hand to, excel, and prosper at. Ask yourself, “Who are the real producers?” Much of the feminist ambition is achieved by truncating, cutting back, killing, taxing, borrowing, etc. Stay-at-home wives and mothers produce and have something to show for their work when they’re done. They’re truly fruitful. More people through child bearing, better education through the work they do with home education, christian discipleship in the homes creating a people group with sound moral ethics, established debt-free home economies, home-businesses, cultural discipleship through church and community involvement relieving the burden of the state welfare systems, etc.

Also, what is ‘flashy’ exactly? Flashy is pride not a fruit of the spirit, or a christian virtue, flashy is nothing and you can’t build with nothing.]

An article published in The Daily Mail today laments that women increasingly base their self-worth on the success of their working lives, labelling this a “toxic legacy of the feminist Superwoman“.  It asks the question: “Career women insist feminism means ALL women having jobs, but could that belief blight the lives of mothers – and their children?“.

It is a question worth asking.  How much must women do to realize their true worth and live great lives?  Even government policy is so often now pointed towards encouraging women back into work, increasing economic ‘productivity’ (forgetting, perhaps, that a working age, tax paying population is a direct result of mothers bringing up children and stable family life), and making regular counts of the numbers of women in top corporate and government positions to show how far we have come.

All this makes it easy for women to feel that they are not doing something truly important unless they also have some sort of career.  So much is expected of women today. There is no question that this is one of the reasons that countries across the world are seeing dramatic and worrying drops in fertility rates.

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Love Letters: George Washington to his Wife

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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Like her husband, Martha’s letters also mention divine Providence. Writing to Mercy Otis Warren from Valley Forge on March 7, 1778, she says, “…indeed I think providence was very bountiful in her goodness to your state….would bountiful providence aim a like stroke at Genl Howe, the measure of my happiness would be complete.”

Writing to Mrs. Elizabeth Powel on January 18th, 1788, Martha said, “She is blessed however with a charming family of children, and providence has been bountiful in giving her resolution and strength of Body and mind to be  able to undertake the care that have developed upon her.”

By Washington’s own testimony, throughout his life, he was a happily married man. On September 20, 1759, he wrote, “I am now I believe fixed at this seat [Mount Vernon] with an agreeable Consort [Mrs. Martha Washington] for Life and hope to find more happiness in retirement [from service in the British Army at the end of the French and Indian War] than I ever experienced amidst a wide and bustling World.”

Purchase your copy of George Washington’s Sacred Fire

Feminism is Bad for Your Heart Health

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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[Editor’s Note: Anything that is bad for you will not end well. Defying common sense is not the highest of human attributes though many try to prove otherwise. Feminism will cause it’s own extinction. i.e. Feminism gave us birth control, singleness, a putrid sexual ethic, a self-satisfying power grab, statist substitutionary motherhood and dependency. Birth control gave us cancer and declining populations, immorality, marital instability. Singleness gave us, narcissism, a individualized political ethic, declining family values, massive college debt, detachment from generational establishment of property and economic stability. Sexual liberation has given us a demoralized population, disease, abuse, orphans, further objectification of women by compromising bio-ethical practices. Empowerment has given us an array of sordid victimization and entitlement issues compromising law, and usurping family, church, and state. And so on, and so on….

Feminism will cause it’s own death. Don’t be a part of the death toll.]

Marriage protects men and women from fatal heart attacks. Indeed, even among individuals who do suffer a heart attack, men and women are more likely to survive if they are married than if they are not. The relationship between marital status and fatal heart attacks receives illuminating attention in two European studies: one by researchers at the University of Stirling and University College London in Great Britain, and a second by researchers at Skåne University in Sweden. The British study measures the degree of protection from fatal heart attacks enjoyed by married men and women and tries to account for that protection. The Swedish study scrutinizes the distinctively high survival rates among married men and women who do suffer a heart attack.

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It’s Not That Complicated: How To Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way
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How To Evaluate A Suitor

 

‘Call the police, my girlfriend’s father killed my child!’: The day I lost my unborn baby to the Culture of Death

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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We were born to know the truth, and something in our soul is repulsed by lies. This awakening takes work and it takes time. But it is ultimately unstoppable.

It was two days before my seventeenth birthday, a Saturday morning, the day after a football game in which I’d played. So I was tired and sore, but I could smell breakfast coming from downstairs and somebody was walking up the stairs. I was half asleep. The door opened: it was my girlfriend, I smiled, of course—but from the look on her face I could see that this wasn’t called for. This was a serious moment. I steeled myself.

After a few long seconds, she looked up at me and said, “I’m pregnant.” That woke me up quick. We sat there in my bedroom, two young teenagers. My room was still a boy’s place, hung with football posters, sneakers, and baseball gloves strewn across the floor. But there I was, sitting next to my pregnant girlfriend. I knew all of a sudden I’d lost the right to keep on being just a boy. My girlfriend went to an all-girls Catholic school and looked ahead to college, while I was dreaming of college football and a career in the NFL. We each had a plan for our lives. It was time to scrap those plans.

We strategized together figuring out how to take care of the new life we created. It felt completely natural and, incomprehensibly, even a little exciting: Our adult lives were starting much sooner than we had planned, but we’d figure it out. So here’s what we decided: I could drop out of high school to join the army (a friend of mine had just done the same). My girlfriend would keep things secret, wear baggy sweaters and take vitamins until I got back from basic training and then we would be together—and I’d take care of all three of us.

Read the rest here

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Blood Money: Getting Rich Off a Woman’s Right to Choose
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Grand Illusions: The Legacy of Planned Parenthood
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Is Italy Dying?

February 16, 2015 | Author:

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The Italian health minister has recently said some alarming words about his country’s demographic outlook:

We are very close to the threshold of non-renewal where the people dying are not replaced by new-borns. That means we are a dying country,” Health Minister Beatrice Lorenzin said.

This situation has enormous implications for every sector: the economy, society, health, pensions, just to give a few examples,” Lorenzin said.

We need a wake-up call and a real change of culture to turn the trend around in the coming years, added the minister. 

What has caused this pessimistic outburst from Lorenzin has been the news that 2014 saw fewer Italian babies born than in any other year since 1861 when the modern Italian state was formed. The Italian national statistics office ISTAT released figures last week showing that the number of live births last year was a touch over half a million (509,000) a number that was 5,000 fewer than 2013.

Read the rest here

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Three Decades of Fertility
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies
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